![]() ![]() And if he’s not the right one, well, consider yourself lucky to be finding out early on. He might not be able to come right out and be direct himself, but at least he’ll know for sure where you stand. If you’re not convinced, by all means, come right out and talk to him or call him if that will make you feel better. So don’t despair if your phone isn't ringing. Trust me on this one - there’s nothing worse than being led on with your full heart into a guy only to find out later you’re both on opposite sides of the page when it comes to commitment. You’re being saved from more heartbreak down the road. But that’s a good thing – because then you know what you’re dealing with. Because let’s face it, some guys aren't sure what they want, some guys are a little confused, some guys are a little (or a lot) scared, and some guys aren't mature enough to know what they’re doing.Īnd if you’re giving off the vibe that you’re interested in a relationship and he isn't, then chances are good that he won’t call or he’ll delay calling for a while. It’s not about you as much as it’s about him being in a relationship in general. And that means he might not call right away either. The other possibility is that he might be interested in you, but he might not be interested in a relationship. Unfortunately, if he falls into this category it’s a sign of bigger issues, which is a topic for another post. Now, there’s also the chance of the guy being confused by the so-called three day rule, made infamous in the movie Swingers back in the 90’s. He wants to find out if you’re interested. He wants to find out if the two of you might be compatible. He wants to find out who is this beautiful woman known as you. And calling (or texting, messaging, etc.)īecause a genuinely interested guy wants to get to know you. Guys just aren't wired to sit back and wait for you to call them. Ask just about all of my clients (not to mention all my single friends.) ![]() That’s a fairly common characteristic with the type of guy who’s broken more than his share of hearts. But if it seems that the calls start to be growing farther apart, be forewarned. In the beginning, he’s calling you … a lot. And with a guy who’s a player, well, there’s no stopping him. But if you’re putting out subtle hints to this guy you’re interested in that you really are interested in him, he’s going to get the hint and respond.Įven if he’s on the shy side. Now I know there are some really, really shy guys out there who you might be thinking are the exception. ![]() Until you clearly let them know you’re not interested – and even then, they sometimes don’t get it and keep trying. When they’re interested, they keep trying. At least right now.īut would it make it easier to hear it if you knew how much the realization could save you so much heartbreak? Would it help to know that by realizing the truth now, before you put so much of your body, heart, and soul into this relationship, you could save yourself from so much more pain down the road?īecause here’s the thing, if he’s interested in you, nothing will be able to keep him from calling you. That the real reason he hasn't called is because this guy is just not that interested. Well, after asking the same question myself more times than I would like to admit, and hearing it from my girlfriends about the same number of times, I know the answer that we all really knew even back then. Until eventually, we would run out of possibilities and resign ourselves to either waiting it out some more, or relieving our anxiety by just calling him ourselves. It was the tribal rallying cry, calling all of us together in support of the one whose turn it was to live it.Īnd then the conversation would begin, with us rehashing every single detail of what we had said and done, what he had said and done.Įvery possible piece of conversation, body language, tone, nuance, and action was meticulously scrutinized as we tried to piece together the answer to that question that was eluding us once again: why hasn't he called?Īnd of course, as supportive girlfriends, we would all offer our best take on the situation, usually filled with lots hope, but with a little dose of realism thrown in, trying to make sense of a situation that doesn’t have much sense to it to begin with. We could have had a ringtone on our phones for it. It was always spoken with that combination of sadness and desperation, with a little trace of hope salted in. The conversation always inevitably came around to “Why hasn’t he called?” Whenever one of us had just gone on a first or second date, or had been in a slow moving relationship with the typical non-committal guy we were in denial about. The conversation my single girlfriends and I would have over and over again. I remember it like it was just yesterday. If he hasn't called yet, this is probably why. ![]()
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